MOM & ME

                Bonding between a mother and daughter starts at very early stage. When a daughter is born, there is always the question of how much she will be like her mother. You would stand in front of the mirror, apply her lipstick, model her earrings, try her duppata and tell the mirror, I look just like my mom and I want to be like my mommy. It is the same till your thirteen. Later, she would be the most ignorant creature at home. Your reaction to whatever she says would be "moooooooommm..."! Our priorities may change , after certain stage we don't like to be dependent on our mother for everything. We feel that we can handle our life. At this stage, a girl gets more attracted towards her man, but her true love is always for her mother. " It's the original relationship and its also a relationship that has been sentimentalised but not honoured.

                 A beautiful picture of a mother and daughter inspired me to write this blog. Please take a look at the image below -

I'm sure most of you would have remembered your mother at least for a second after seeing this picture. The picture itself speaks about their relationship. We hardly get to see such real pictures. Aren't they world's most beautiful mother and daughter.
 
                   Remember? She was your first best friend. Sometimes, I scatter the whole room but still can't find my things, but when my mom comes those things appear in the same place where I had searched before. What kind of black magic is that? After few years, a daughter becomes mother's best friend. She shares her opinions, happiness, sadness with her. Her daughter becomes her strength. few are best friends. Others hardly speak to her. They won't understand her importance until they hit their  motherhood, few won't understand even if they hit their grave. Even if your relationship with your mother is like that don't worry. It can be corrected, follow  few simple tips given below-
1) Lack of communication is a common challenge in any relationship. Be clear and calmly state of how you're feeling. Is your mother treating you like a child? Simply say, "mom, you're not treating me like an adult".
2) At times, we lose temper and speak very arrogantly and nastily to her. But don't continue it, go to her and say sorry. I'm sure she would apologise you.Forgiveness is important in a relationship.
3) Avoid sarcasm and facetiousness. It's easily misinterpreted cause hurt feelings and takes you further away from resolution.
4) Don't bring in third parties - A daughter might involve dad becomes mom is driving her crazy. Mom might involve another child because she feels like she can't talk to her daughter. Either way, talk directly to the person.
5) If you're a daughter, think of your mom as a women with her own wounds and hurts, who was born and raised in a different generation with different values and issues and family relationships.Put yourself in her shoes.

               You can always get back to me if the above tips doesn't work. The first thing you'll do after reading this blog is go to your mom, hug her, kiss her on her cheeks and say that you love her and she's very special to you. If you do this regularly, you will never be in need of those tips. And don't forget to take a picture with her like the one I posted. Do share those pictures with me.