LOVE! The one word, love, just brings out a smile on the face of the person who says it or reads it somewhere. Why? At least I don't know, buy I must agree, it brings out a smile on my face too. And so did it on yours. Ever tried asking someone "What is love?" They will say "Love is......" and there is a big pause and a bigger smile on their faces.
But what most people don't do is they never ask themselves- "What is love?" Will the question remain unanswered forever? Will you accept this and be done with it? My answer would be 'NO' and many will also do the same.
Then the question is 'what next?' As modern people, what we may do is, we may ask the 'scientist'. The scientist in a geeky way(errr.... No offence) will tell you that love is a feeling, rather than a mental stimulation caused by the hormone oxytocin also called as 'love hormone.'
Can we accept this and be done with it? I would say "No", so will many, Many say love is a beautiful thing. Others say it brings pain and misery with it, But I would say the topic of discussion is contextual. For example, how can your love for your mother bring pain and misery.
Love usually confused for a relation between a girl and a boy or a man and a woman, is it only that, Its not just that. You can love your mother, father, or even friends. This misconception is being demonised in this work of mine. I am no one to define 'love'. But I here I have a few notes from few books which may be relative in defining love.
It is said that love is 'Identification.' By identification, I mean relating to the person, relating to his pain, to happiness. That is love.
It is also said that:
LOVE+SELFISHNESS= ATTACHMENT
ATTACHMENT-SELFISHNESS=LOVE
In another book, it's clearly depicted as a trace of selfishness, possessiveness or even expectancy in a relation renders it, devoid of love.
Love is a pure feeling without expecting anything from anyone. In my case if I clearly note, I love only three people in those world. This question may arise in your life too and it will not be a shock to me that you my not even find one. Sit at home and ask yourself, "How many people do I love selflessly, not possessively and without expecting anything?" and as a disclaimer, I would like to tell' I am not responsible for your shock. I did a case study in the question, "How many people does everyone love without selfishness, possessiveness and unexpectedly." and the results are devastating... one, two or three and may be even zero.
In this world where nature has only love for us , Why is it hard to find love? Why do we fail to love everyone around us ?Why do we even fail to try to love everyone around us? Why have we decided that we love these many people and don't love others? Why?
The answer to this question is buried deep in you. I argue you to go search for it. Coming to my opinion "I define love as being happy in others happiness" and I personally think that its high time we send the messages of love everywhere and our environment, our surrounding and our world is soon blessed with boon of love. I think, instead of bestowing, 'the only special one' with so much, we can everyone equally and unselfishly. So get up everyday in the morning and say to yourself. "I love everyone." I guess, it works. By the way, I LOVE YOU.
nice one :)
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